Singles today (and most married couples too) are searching for super-spouses that simply don’t exist. People expect far too much from their spouse in all the wrong areas.
I used to hear a lot about people meeting “Mr Right” or “Mrs Right”. There is a view out there that for every person there is another person who is their perfect partner, and this often leads to frustration when the person you think is the perfect partners turns out to have flaws you didn’t realise were there at first. Tyler McKenzie in his blog post, “How I know my wife married the ‘wrong’ person” debunks this theory and says there is no 100% “right” person.
…whether you buy the biblical view of marriage or not, realize that love takes hard work. And that, as long as you limit the field to human beings, you’ll never marry the “right person.” Because there are no 100% “right people.” Sin’s presence in the world guarantees it. There are only wrong people who pretend to be right and wrong people who are becoming right, through Jesus. That’s why I like the biblical image of marriage. The fairy-tale image of two soul mates finding love at last is just that, a fairy tale. But the biblical image of marriage provides something so much more beautifully realistic.
It paints a portrait of two sinners, committing to the task of one another, for the sake of one another, until death do them part. It’s two imperfect people, committing to the sanctifying work of expressing Jesus’ self-sacrificial love, to their lover, so that they might see him or her become the person God has always intended them to be, knowing full well that neither of them have yet to reach this goal.
It’s worth thinking about.